[v24.3.x] kafka: catch shutdown errors in list_offsets and fetch

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #28358 to branch v24.3.x. This issue was created as a placeholder because the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v24.3.x
git checkout -b manual-backport-28358-v24.3.x-620
git cherry-pick -x cb957c983f 1434640d9e

git push origin manual-backport-28358-v24.3.x-620
gh pr create \
  --title "[v24.3.x] kafka: catch shutdown errors in list_offsets and fetch" \
  --base "v24.3.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "manual-backport-28358-v24.3.x-620" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --milestone "v24.3.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/28358 "