feat(server): New TTL system, enforce max queue length limits, lazy waitpoint creation #4401

Job	Run time
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (windows-latest - pnpm)	3m 40s
sdk-compat / Cloudflare Workers	2m 20s
sdk-compat / Deno Runtime	1m 57s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (5, 8)	7m 34s
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (ubuntu-latest - pnpm)	1m 47s
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (windows-latest - npm)	3m 33s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (5, 8)	4m 10s
sdk-compat / Node.js 22.12 (ubuntu-latest)	2m 0s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (7, 8)	5m 34s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (2, 8)	10m 6s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (3, 8)	3m 26s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (6, 8)	5m 6s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (8, 8)	6m 36s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (4, 8)	5m 30s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (1, 8)	5m 47s
typecheck / typecheck	6m 33s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (1, 8)	6m 3s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (2, 8)	4m 11s
sdk-compat / Node.js 20.20 (ubuntu-latest)	1m 52s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (4, 8)	6m 10s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (6, 8)	3m 51s
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (ubuntu-latest - npm)	1m 57s
sdk-compat / Bun Runtime	2m 8s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (3, 8)	6m 37s
units / packages / 🧪 Unit Tests: Packages (1, 1)	8m 34s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (8, 8)	2m 37s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (7, 8)	5m 57s
units / webapp / 📊 Merge Reports	46s
units / packages / 📊 Merge Reports	23s
units / internal / 📊 Merge Reports	22s
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