feat: Supports upper-layer modification of the InstanceSet's UpdateStrategy

[YTGhost]

merge the capability from #7939 into release-0.9.

[codecov]

Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 42.42424% with 19 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 61.76%. Comparing base (bb4fbb1) to head (8ce747b).
Report is 1 commits behind head on release-0.9.

Files	Patch %	Lines
pkg/controller/component/rsm_convertor.go	0.00%	11 Missing ⚠️
pkg/controller/builder/builder_component.go	0.00%	3 Missing ⚠️
pkg/controller/instanceset/reconciler_update.go	40.00%	2 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️
...ntrollers/apps/configuration/reconfigure_policy.go	0.00%	1 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️

Additional details and impacted files

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##           release-0.9    #7978      +/-   ##
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- Coverage        65.24%   61.76%   -3.49%     
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  Files              356      448      +92     
  Lines            44676    53712    +9036     
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+ Hits             29150    33173    +4023     
- Misses           12946    17761    +4815     
- Partials          2580     2778     +198     

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unittests	61.76% <42.42%> (-3.49%)	⬇️

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