[ignore me]fix: panic on unexpected mutation during startup barrier

[shanicky]

Replace the previous warning log and permissive behavior with a panic when encountering an unexpected mutation type at startup.

• Enforce strict correctness by failing fast on protocol violations
• Prevent subtle bugs caused by silently ignored invalid mutations
• Improve observability and debugging of startup barrier processing
• Harden the streaming executor initialization logic against invalid input

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